Every single time we suppress ourselves in order to be liked or to avoid conflict, criticism, rejection, disappointment, loss or abandonment, we are people pleasing. Done regularly or most of the time, it has catastrophic effects on our well-being and quality of life, including our relationships and careers. It doesn’t have to be this way.
HELLO!
Hi, I’m Natalie, and I’m a writer and artist who’s authored six books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, Love, Care, Trust and Respect, The Joy of Saying No (Harper Horizon, Jan 2023), and Let Go (The Pound Project). I’ve been inspiring and teaching people online for since 2004, and founded Baggage Reclaim, a popular self-help blog and podcast The Baggage Reclaim Sessions (5 million + downloads) aimed at helping people break the patterns that block them from being in loving relationships and having healthy self-esteem.
I’m on a mission to help as many people as possible to help themselves quit people pleasing, a toxic habit that erodes our mental health, sense of self, relationships, creativity – everything.
MISSION
I have a hell of a lot to say about our relationship with our inner self and how that, and specifically, the people-pleasing habit, significantly impacts our relationship with everything. From creativity to money, to career and business, to how we parent, how much we struggle to meet our goals and, of course, to whether we create healthy boundaries in the first place. I’m frequently asked to put on my ‘Baggage Reclaim hat’ and help people figure out their confidence, creativity, career and business potholes, and I have to pay deeper attention to this.
My mission is to help as many people as possible help themselves to become more of who they really are.
I’m doing my little bit in the world to help people heal and to spread compassion and light. I guide people on how to own themselves and how to live and work with their intuition and authenticity so they lead happier, more harmonious lives.
Bio
Natalie Lue is a thought leader on relationships and human behaviour. Her no-nonsense yet compassionate and humorous take has garnered her a following in over 140 countries, and she’s been featured in the likes of The New York Times, The Washington Post, NPR and the BBC.
A writer, author and artist, her self-published books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl, The No Contact Rule and Love, Care, Trust & Respect, have sold 200K+ copies, and her podcast, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, has over 5 million downloads and has been turned into a highly popular Shortcast (short versions of podcast episodes) for non-fiction app, Blinkist. Her first traditionally-published book, The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want, was published by Harper Horizon, an imprint of HarperCollins, in January 2023.
Drawing on lessons and observations not just from her own personal transformation from low self-esteem and a penchant for emotionally unavailable men, but from wisdom gleaned from observing interpersonal relationships and the many stories people share with her, she’s become a go-to source for self-help that doesn’t feel or look like self-help, and her message applies in all areas of life.
Natalie founded the popular self-help blog, Baggage Reclaim and is also the original founder of Bambino Goodies, the kids’ lifestyle blog. Born in England, raised in Dublin, Ireland, she’s lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south east London with her husband, one of her teen daughters (the other’s at uni) and her crazy cockapoo.
She started blogging full time in 2009, and worked in advertising and media sales in her previous career. Her current work centres around people pleasing, boundaries (she’s quite obsessed with work boundaries!), mindfulness, and creativity. In recent years, Natalie has rekindled her artistic side and paints, draws and makes. This includes the watercolour and embroidered quotes in her work, as well as abstract embroidery and tufting, and teaching punch needle workshops.
A 90s raver at heart with a love of reading, all things arts and crafts, journaling, yoga, travel and design, she’s been wheat free for over a decade and started running in 2018 –and completed the London Marathon four months later.
